I got the inspiration for this particular article from Trizzle and I would like to add my small story which is on somewhat similar lines. I am not assessing Trizzle as I sincerely think it ROCKS big time and I am a huge fan myself.
Well a long time ago there was a student (lets call him guy A) trying to learn the concepts of Physics. He tried it over and over again since he was a stubborn DIY (do-it-yourself) freak but could never grasp the concepts very well. So, he spoke to his friend (guy B) who was in a similar situation and they both decided to seek help from a private tutor. Now once they were given a problem to solveâ€¦ guy A could not even understand the problem and sat there totally perplexed â€¦where as on the other end of the spectrum guy B solved the problem in no time. There private tutor was enormously impressed by guy B and from that day onwards every time guy A did something incorrectly he was demoralised by statements like â€œyou cannot do anythingâ€¦look at your friend (guy B)â€.
The end result was guy A could never strengthen his concepts because he got so discouraged by his tutorâ€™s taunts and his DIY attitude went hunting in the woods. And you know why guy B could solve the problem so quicklyâ€¦.because he had done it a few hours ago. The moral of the story please for GOD sake do not discourage people. The reason we have so many different fields is because everyone has different likings and abilities.
Lack of encouragement killed guy Aâ€™s enthusiasm and his hunger to learn was soon transformed into â€œI do not like itâ€¦ I am not good at itâ€. Another thing worth mentioning is â€œComparisonâ€â€¦a constructive comparison may be â€œOhh look at him you can be like him one day you just need to work a bit harderâ€ and a negative comparison may be â€œlook at him you can never be like himâ€. Itâ€™s the way one puts it makes the big difference.
Sometimes it takes time for one to understand or learn a new concept but with time and effort eventually everyone gets there.